10 Ways to Focus on What You Can Control
10 Ways to Focus on What You Can Control
Although it may feel as if you have no control over the pandemic and it's impact, or the uncertainty of the future, here are 10 ways to build your Resilience in order to cope better with key challenges. Remember that you can still control the following:
1. Your own Attitude
It’s very likely that you have had to change your plans dramatically over the past 18 months, from needing to work from home, to having to cancel your holiday, or even worse, having to cancel your wedding! During these unprecedented times, it may have been difficult to look for the positives, but it’s worth remembering that our attitude determines our thoughts, which in turn determine how we feel, and then how we behave. Those who are naturally more resilient and optimistic are more able to find the positives, from thinking that they’ve saved money by not going on regular foreign holidays, to finally getting around to clearing out the garage now they haven’t got a long commute every day.
2. Your Self-talk
Now, more than ever, it’s a good time to work on trying to silence your Inner Negative Voice/Inner Critic to deal with uncertainty, stress and anxiety. Try to replace negative thoughts with positive statements; if you find your negative thoughts spiralling out of control, write down some actions you can take to counter them, for example, if you’re wondering how you’re going to pay the rising energy bills, start contacting your suppliers online and ask for payment plans. Now is the time to ask for help.
3. Your Breath
If you have seen any of the videos posted on social media of people in hospital with Covid struggling to breathe, even when receiving oxygen, then you may start to pay more attention to what we take for granted – our breathing and health. If you practice meditation or yoga, you’ll be familiar with the calming effects of deep breathing, if not, check out some of the techniques online.
At the onset of the pandemic we witnessed the extremes of human behaviour, from the worst of those panic buying, to the best, as people helped out the more vulnerable and key workers in our communities. At the end of every day, if you can look yourself in the mirror and be proud of how you have behaved and treated others, then you should feel better about yourself and your own situation.
5. The Amount of Effort you put in
Over the past 18 months many of us have had to adapt to remote working full time; once you’ve dealt with the major changes and challenges in your life, the more effort you put in to trying to be the best version of yourself should also make you feel better.
6. What you Eat and Drink
By choosing healthier options and limiting your intake of caffeine and alcohol you are less likely to experience the flight, fight, freeze stress responses.
7. Who or what you Listen to, or Watch on TV or Online
Limiting how much you check social media or the news on TV not only makes you more productive, it also means you suffer less from the FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) or comparing yourself to others.
8. How much you Exercise
Diarising time to work out is key to feeling good and getting out in the fresh air can help you stay focused and cope better with stress and anxiety.
9. When you go to Bed
If you haven’t got to get up at 6 o’clock every morning to start a long commute, the temptation may be to stay up late watching Netflix, however, getting more sleep helps you to feel more positive.
10. Talk to Someone
Make sure you have a strong support network you know you can call on if you just need to talk. Having someone to discuss problems with is proven to improve stress levels and assist in seeing the wood for the trees when someone is feeling overwhelmed. If you feel the issues are too complex for a friend to help out with, then contact the online support networks and/or your organisations Employee Assistance Programme.
'I honestly could not see the wood for the trees; I'd completely lost perspective but didn't realise that I was on the verge of burnout. Thank you so much for taking me through the key issues and helping me see that I can take back control one step at a time. I am now back to my old self and as a result the team are also in a much more productive state!' Senior Manager