10 Ways to Focus on What You Can Control
10 Ways to Focus on What You Can Control
Following on from ‘why we need to develop our Resilience skills now’, as promised, here are 10 more ways to build your Resilience in order to cope better with the current uncertainty and challenges.
Although it may feel as if you have no control over the current pandemic, the government’s response to it in the UK, and the uncertainty of the future, you still have control over the following:
1. Your own Attitude
It’s very likely that you have had to change your plans dramatically this week, from needing to work from home, to having to cancel your holiday, or even worse, having to cancel your wedding! During these unprecedented times, it may seem difficult to look for the positives, but it’s worth remembering that our attitude determines our thoughts, which in turn determine how we feel and then how we behave. Those who are naturally more resilient and optimistic are trying to find the positives in their current situation, from thinking that they’ve saved money by not going on their holiday, to finally getting around to clearing out the garage now they haven’t got a long commute. Although it’s not easy at the moment to think of the positives, try and find something to focus on and identify what you can do to keep well and help out key workers and the vulnerable.
2. Your Self-talk
Now, more than ever, it’s time to work on trying to silence your Inner Negative Voice/Inner Critic to deal with uncertainty, stress and anxiety, especially if you live alone, are suddenly having to self-isolate, or work ‘on the frontline’. Try to replace negative thoughts with positive statements; if you find your negative thoughts spiralling out of control, write down some actions you can take to counter them, for example, if you’re wondering how you’re going to pay the bills, start contacting your suppliers online and ask for payment plans. Now is the time to ask for help.
3. Your Breath
If you have seen any of the recent videos posted on social media of young people in hospital struggling to breathe, even when receiving oxygen, then you may start to pay more attention to what we take for granted – our breathing and health. If you practice meditation or yoga, you’ll be familiar with the calming effects of deep breathing, if not, check out some of the techniques online.
4. Your Behaviour
We’re witnessing the extremes of human behaviour, from the worst of those panic buying, to the best, as people help out the more vulnerable and key workers in our communities. At the end of every day, if you can look yourself in the mirror and be proud of how you have behaved and treated others, then you should feel better about yourself and your own situation.
5. The Amount of Effort you put in
One employee survey already reports an understandable drop in engagement levels this week, as those, who are suddenly working from home or looking after their children, are 7% less committed to their work, with feeling ‘anxious’ and ‘distracted’ as the highest emotions being experienced. However, once you’ve dealt with the new major changes and challenges in your life, the more effort you put in to trying to be the best version of yourself, even working from home and juggling childcare, should also make you feel better.
6. What you Eat and Drink
For those suddenly working from home, as well as school children, who are thinking they are now on a very long holiday, the challenge is not to ‘comfort eat’ or eat unhealthy snacks all day, especially if you feel bored. Now is the time to eat healthier options to try to boost your immune system and feel good.
7. Who or what you Listen to, or Watch on TV or Online
If you’re at home all day, try to limit how much you check social media or the news on TV. In order to stay informed, seek out the reliable websites so you can make considered decisions of what is the best action to take. Then watch something funny and uplifting nearer bedtime.
8. How much you Exercise
If you have the time, then there are many online fitness gurus there to inspire you to work out at home or in the garden, if you have one; pick what you know will work for you. With Spring approaching, it’s the best time to get out in the fresh air if you can.
9. When you go to Bed
If you haven’t got to get up at 6 o’clock in the morning to start a long commute, the temptation may be to stay up late watching Netflix, however, again this is the time to get more sleep to try to boost your immune system.
10. Talk to Someone
Make sure you have contacted your support network and given them your emergency contacts, in case of illness. Having someone to discuss problems with is proven to improve stress levels and assist in seeing the wood for the trees when someone is feeling overwhelmed. If you live alone or are self-isolating, ask a friend or neighbour to check in with you once or twice a day virtually. If you feel the issues are too complex for a friend to help out with, then contact the online support networks.