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Why we should be Thankful every Day

Why we should be Thankful every Day

Why we should be Thankful every Day

A few years ago, I had the pleasure of spending Thanksgiving with my wonderful American friends in California and really appreciated the special family celebration as a precursor to Christmas.  Whilst it’s great to have a day dedicated to being thankful for our food, family, friends and for life itself, now more than ever it’s important to be grateful every day.

During much of my pro bono Career and Outplacement Coaching, Resilience Coaching and pastoral care, I am hearing some heart-wrenching stories this year.  One thing that the horrors and impact of Covid-19 have taught many, is to truly value your loved ones and your freedom.  Sadly, a lot of people are struggling with the impact of the coronavirus, whether that is suffering from long-Covid or the grief of losing loved ones, or the loss of a job or business.  As a result, anxiety and stress levels are even higher than they were pre-pandemic, with remote workers often finding they are putting in many extra hours each day, resulting in screen fatigue, even burnout, and feelings of guilt at not spending enough time with their family.

Those who have a faith or spiritual beliefs are used to being thankful every day, being mindful of the small pleasures in life.  In the workplace, if you ask what most employees want it is to feel valuable and recognised for doing their best, working hard and making a difference.  Many companies spend millions on incentives to try to create a positive culture and to improve productivity and employee engagement, however, most workers say they just want to be thanked regularly to feel appreciated.  Research has demonstrated that giving frequent positive reinforcement increases discretionary effort.

Much research has been conducted around positive psychology and happiness; focusing on the positives, on what you do have, as opposed to what you have lost or don’t have, are proven techniques to feel happier and more grounded.  According to Harvard Health Publishing: ‘Gratitude is a thankful appreciation for what an individual receives, whether tangible or intangible...Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.

A technique recommended by psychologists for dealing with anxiety or stress, is to write down 3 – 5 things that you are grateful for each night before you sleep.  This is similar to children saying their prayers before they go to bed.  Giving back and doing good deeds for others are also proven to make you feel better about yourself. 

So, no matter how challenging your work and life seem at the moment, try to be thankful for the small things: take time to appreciate what you have and to thank someone for a good deed done.  If you’re struggling, take steps to improve your self-care, put in place techniques to banish the Winter Blues  in order to try to  thrive in lockdown.

And in the spirit of giving thanks – thank you for all the DMs and positive feedback on my posts!  Please just shout if you need any more tips and techniques! 

Stay positive, stay safe.

About Jill Maidment

Coaching:
Executive Coaching and Mentoring, Career and Transition Coaching, Business Coaching, Resilience Coaching, Life Coaching 

Assessment:
Executive Assessment, 360 Feedback, Face to Face 360 Feedback, Talent Management and Succession Planning

Training:
Leadership Training, High Performance Leadership Development, Management Training, Leadership and Management Team Development, Board Facilitation, Coaching Academy